Two Conversations I’m Having With Myself This Week and One I’m Not Quite Ready to Have

I have conversations with myself or different parts of myself, inside my head. I suppose I’ve always done this. They used to be a lot of oh, you are so stupid, you are so bad. But I’ve made a very conscious effort this year to speak kindly to myself. This week my internal conversation seem…

#sexed #puberty #lovemybod

The 6th Grader Watches Her Sex-Ed Videos

Dear Wise Woman, Tonight I watched those puberty videos you told me about. First I was only going to watch one and see how it was, but it was so interesting I ended up watching all eight of them. It was kind of embarrassing that they showed real people’s bodies. And she actually touched some…

Something Else I’m Doing For the Girl

Back a few weeks ago, before a bunch of family stuff and getting triggered and another round of venlafaxine withdrawal derailed me, I was venturing into the treacherous but oh-so-important territory of sex. I’d had several therapy sessions with E, in which I explained to her that I couldn’t stay present during sex with my…

Baby Steps

Monday afternoon, and E is back from her training on self-care. I’ve forewarned her that I’ve lost my enthusiasm for exploring the bat caves, that is, the darker recesses of my psyche. And she in turn has indicated she has every confidence we can get back in there. So there we are, smiling at each…